Sex, it may be a taboo subject to some or a little embarrassing for others, but the long and short of it is…. we all do it!
Some of us love it and do it a lot, some of us are just not bothered.
Now, I am not going to profess to being the worlds best romper, or some kind of love doctor, but what I can tell you is that exercise CAN improve your sex life… go on, read on!
I am not going to delve into different positions or oral techniques here, this is just going to be about exercise boosting and improving your life between the sheets… and I know from listening to clients stories that many women head through life bored in bed…. (being a personal trainer is a lot like being a hairdresser, we get all the details😋).
Let’s just keep this short & simple, and say that long and slow all night isn’t really what we want, but neither is the “2 pump shuffle” (I seriously hope I don’t have to explain that term?)!
If you suffer with a low sex drive, then exercise isn’t necessarily going to improve that, although having increased energy may give you the oomph that you need to bump uglies after a long day at work.
Some things that can affect and reduce your libido include:
- Stress, Anxiety & Depression
- Underlying Health Issues
- Exhaustion, Fatigue & General Tiredness
- Age and the dreaded Menopause
- Alcohol or Drug abuse
- Medication and Contraception
- Relationship Problems
- Pregnancy and Breast Feeding
If you feel that one of these issues is causing your sex life to take a down turn, then you can seek help from your GP or a Sex Counsellor (yep, there is such a thing). If all of this is good, then maybe you just need to find something to “spark” the fire between your thighs!
And this is where exercise may be able to help you. Increasing your fitness & strength means greater blood flow, greater stamina, greater flexibility and greater confidence, and this goes for the boys too!
Being Body Confident is always going to improve your desire to get naked in front of someone of the opposite sex, or even the same sex. But being confident about what your body can do…. well, that increases your “get up and go” even more.
Exercise, just like sex, releases endorphins, the feel good hormone. And just for the record, headaches are no longer a viable excuse to avoid sex! Endorphins will in fact mute any headache as well as, if not better than any OTC painkiller. So… next time you have a headache, jump in to a workout or the sack!
The main complaint that I hear from women is flexibility! There is nothing worse than muscle tension or pain when you are trying to be all sexy & amorous. So you need to work on the flexibility of your hip flexors and hamstrings.
Then there is thrust, and here it is all about your legs, butt and abdominals… and how long you want to go at it for, comes down to your cardiovascular fitness.
In the most part, a lot of your sexual fitness can be achieved from classes like Yoga and Pilates, where there is a great deal of focus on your pelvic floor and core muscles. Having the ability to contract and release your PF (pelvic floor), is going to have a great impact on how good (or bad) your sex is.
Your PF is especially important if you have had children, and participating in Kegel exercises before and after childbirth could give you a huge advantage (your midwife should advise you on these, if not ASK!).
So, having a sexually fit Foo-foo, is definitely going to increase both your pleasure… and his! Win-win!
Check out the SexFit Workout below
As with any workout, make sure that you are warmed up and your body is ready to exercise. The last thing we want is a pulled muscle that is going to stop you from putting in the effort in bed!
Laying on your back with your knees bent and your feet tucked up as close to your bottom as you can, inhale and tilt the pelvis towards the ceiling. As you exhale, roll the spine upwards off of the floor. As you do this, think about tightening your pelvic floor as if you are trying to stop yourself from urinating. Similarly, tighten your abdominal muscles just a little bit and keep them braced. Inhale at the top of the move, and exhale as you roll the spine back to the floor. Keep your knees stable through the move, you can hold a football between the legs to help with this. Repeat this move 10-12 times
#2 Roll Up
Starting from the floor with your body stretched out, arms over the head on the floor. Brace the abdominals and pelvis floor. As you exhale, float the arms up towards the ceiling, and as they come level to your chest and shoulders start to roll yourself up to seated. Keep the movement going as you lean forward to stretch the back and hamstrings, stretching the fingers towards the toes. Exhale as you roll down in a controlled movement back to the floor and repeat. Try not to allow the use of any momentum during the move, slow and controlled is key. Perform 8-10 repetitions.
Lay on your side with both knees bent. Keeping your abs and PF braced as before, and your feet together resting on the floor, one on top of the other. Exhale and open the hip by lifting the top knee upwards. Inhale at the top of the movement and then exhale and you lower the knees back together. Make sure that you keep both feet touching, and try not to roll back onto your bottom. You can keep your hand on the floor to stabilise yourself throughout the move. Repeat 10-12 times on each leg.
#4 Cat Stretch
Kneeling on all fours, brace the deep abdominals and PF and exhale as you arch your spine towards the ceiling. Imagine an elastic band from your forehead to your pubic bone, trying to pull your head and hips under and towards each other. As you do this contract the tummy muscles a little, pulling your navel upwards towards your spine. As you exhale, reverse the arch, taking the spine down and the head and hips upwards. Move with each exhalation and repeat 8-10 times.
#5 Boat Pose
Sit with your knees bent in front of you, and lean your torso back to a 45° angle, brace your core muscles and keep your back secure, long and protected. Exhale and lift both feet up off of the floor, keeping the knees bent. Hold your balance on the sit bones. You can advance this move by straightening the legs out or by taking your arms up above your head or out the sides, or even alternating between the two. Hold this pose for 20-30 seconds.
Now it is time to take it up a level, and for this you will need a kettle-bell.
#6 Double Arm Swing
Stand with your feet a little wider than shoulder width, holding the kettle-bell with both hands in front of you. As you exhale swing the kettle-bell up in front, bringing it just a little higher than your eye level. Brace the abdominals and glutes, and allow the bell to swing down, under and between your legs, keeping your core braced, swing the bell back up. As you do this, clench the butt and push deep into your heels, thrusting the pelvis slightly to push the bell upwards. Repeat two sets of this exercise and complete as many reps as you can in 30 seconds.
#7 Romanian Deadlift
Bring your feet in to hip width apart, keeping the kettle-bell held in both hands in front of you. Exhale, and keeping the legs straight lower your torso forwards and take the kettle-bell towards the floor. Brace your abs as you do this to protect your spine. Keep the abs braced as you exhale and draw your torso back up tall. Repeat two sets of this move 12-14 times SLOWLY! This move is going to strengthen your lower back, whilst stretching your hamstrings.
#8 Wide Plie Squat
The pièce de résistance in any PF or Glute strengthening workout is the Plie squat. Stand with your feet wide and your toes pointing outwards, brace your core muscles and keep your upper body tall (imagine a rope holding you up straight). Activate your pelvic floor and as you exhale bend the knees and drop into a low squat, whilst tightening your glute muscles. Inhale as your pause at the lowest point, and exhale as your push into your heels and raise to standing. Repeat this exercise 14-16 times for two sets.
#9 Downward Facing Dog
Finish your workout with a really good stretch of your back and legs. For this, I prefer to use the Downward Dog position. Stand tall with your abdominals braced and PF activated. As you exhale roll your spine & torso forwards and take your hands to the floor. Walk your hands out until your hips and bum point to the ceiling. Try and draw both heels into the ground. If you are a little tight in your hamstrings or calf muscles, try bending one knee and pulling the opposite heel down to the ground and then alternate, keep walking the heels into the floor. Hold this stretch for 20-30 seconds.
And there you have it, the SexFit Pelvic Floor, Glute and Abdominal workout to help you increase your foo-foo’s strength for improved sexual pleasure. Don’t forget to work on your cardio fitness as well for added stamina in the sack, try an aerobics class or DVD that you can do at home.
Happy Love Making! 😁💑
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