Are Your Goals Even Yours? 

Since spending time with some of the UKs very best Transformation Coaches in London, I have come to understand a lot more about the psychology of behaviour change.

Psychology has always been something that I have found particularly interesting, and I have continued to study the topic in many different ways. NeuroPlasticity being one of them!

And this was when I came up with the concept that people’s “goals” may not even be based on who they are and what they want.

Stay with me here, it’s going to take some explaining!

I recently read a book by the late Alan Watts, which discussed how “genuine” or “natural” we are. In his lectures he suggested that the moment that we are born and for just a short time after, we are at our most genuine.

This could be the only moment in our lifetime that we are free from opinion, influence or perception.

From that moment on, every person and everything that we encounter, bears an influence on us that, over time, forms the person that you are today.

From what foods you like and eat, what to shows you watch or sports teams you support.

But these influences are not necessarily a true reflection of who we are, we just slot in where we fit.

Over the past few months I have been coaching some amazing ladies through their transformations and at the first coaching call I asked them all the same question “Who Are You?”

The answers didn’t really have any passion, conviction or believable feeling attached. In fact, most initially answered with their name… that’s not what I wanted to know, otherwise I would have asked “what is your name?”

So we went through a series of exercises to establish some good old fashioned truths,  and we dug deeper into their thoughts, wishes and inspirations.

Once we had completed all of these exercises, I went back and asked them the same question, “Who Are You?”, and the answers were totally different. I then went on to ask them what they wanted to achieve in their transformations and their goals had totally changed from what they had said originally as well.

This wasn’t a one off experience, it’s happened numerous times with clients all over the UK and in other countries as well.

What I now believe is that their original goal was not in fact their own, but a combination of what they thought they should be, mixed up with what they thought others wanted, or expected them to be.

And this would explain why so many people fail to achieve their final desired goal, because it simply doesn’t hold any importance to them!

So, I challenge you to to think about this, and think about whether your goals are your own, or a manifestation of all of the influences that you have experienced throughout your life time!

What do you truly want most in life???



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Can Exercise Improve Sex?

lifestyleEXERCISE logo copy 2Sex, it may be a taboo subject to some or a little embarrassing for others, but the long and short of it is…. we all do it!

Some of us love it and do it a lot, some of us are just not bothered.

Now, I am not going to profess to being the worlds best romper, or some kind of love doctor, but what I can tell you is that exercise CAN improve your sex life… go on, read on!

I am not going to delve into different positions or oral techniques here, this is just going to be about exercise boosting and improving your life between the sheets… and I know from listening to clients stories that many women head through life bored in bed…. (being a personal trainer is a lot like being a hairdresser, we get all the details😋).

Let’s just keep this short & simple, and say that long and slow all night isn’t really what we want, but neither is the “2 pump shuffle” (I seriously hope I don’t have to explain that term?)!

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If you suffer with a low sex drive, then exercise isn’t necessarily going to improve that, although having increased energy may give you the oomph that you need to bump uglies after a long day at work.

Some things that can affect and reduce your libido include:

  • Stress, Anxiety & Depression
  • Underlying Health Issues
  • Exhaustion, Fatigue & General Tiredness
  • Age and the dreaded Menopause
  • Alcohol or Drug abuse
  • Medication and Contraception
  • Relationship Problems
  • Pregnancy and Breast Feeding

If you feel that one of these issues is causing your sex life to take a down turn, then you can seek help from your GP or a Sex Counsellor (yep, there is such a thing). If all of this is good, then maybe you just need to find something to “spark” the fire between your thighs!

And this is where exercise may be able to help you. Increasing your fitness & strength means greater blood flow, greater stamina, greater flexibility and greater confidence, and this goes for the boys too!

Being Body Confident is always going to improve your desire to get naked in front of someone of the opposite sex, or even the same sex. But being confident about what your body can do…. well, that increases your “get up and go” even more.

Exercise, just like sex, releases endorphins, the feel good hormone. And just for the record, headaches are no longer a viable excuse to avoid sex! Endorphins will in fact mute any headache as well as, if not better than any OTC painkiller. So… next time you have a headache, jump in to a workout or the sack!

The main complaint that I hear from women is flexibility! There is nothing worse than muscle tension or pain when you are trying to be all sexy & amorous. So you need to work on the flexibility of your hip flexors and hamstrings.Screen Shot 2017-01-24 at 07.58.49.png

Then there is thrust, and here it is all about your legs, butt and abdominals… and how long you want to go at it for, comes down to your cardiovascular fitness.

In the most part, a lot of your sexual fitness can be achieved from classes like Yoga and Pilates, where there is a great deal of focus on your pelvic floor and core muscles. Having the ability to contract and release your PF (pelvic floor), is going to have a great impact on how good (or bad) your sex is.

Your PF is especially important if you have had children, and participating in Kegel exercises before and after childbirth could give you a huge advantage (your midwife should advise you on these, if not ASK!).

So, having a sexually fit Foo-foo, is definitely going to increase both your pleasure… and his! Win-win!

Check out the SexFit Workout below

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As with any workout, make sure that you are warmed up and your body is ready to exercise. The last thing we want is a pulled muscle that is going to stop you from putting in the effort in bed!

#1  Bridge

Laying on your back with your knees bent and your feet tucked up as close to your bottom as you can, inhale and tilt the pelvis towards the ceiling. As you exhale, roll the spine upwards off of the floor. As you do this, think about tightening your pelvic floor as if you are trying to stop yourself from urinating. Similarly, tighten your abdominal muscles just a little bit and keep them braced. Inhale at the top of the move, and exhale as you roll the spine back to the floor. Keep your knees stable through the move, you can hold a football between the legs to help with this. Repeat this move 10-12 times

#2  Roll Up

Starting from the floor with your body stretched out, arms over the head on the floor. Brace the abdominals and pelvis floor. As you exhale, float the arms up towards the ceiling, and as they come level to your chest and shoulders start to roll yourself up to seated. Keep the movement going as you lean forward to stretch the back and hamstrings, stretching the fingers towards the toes. Exhale as you roll down in a controlled movement back to the floor and repeat. Try not to allow the use of any momentum during the move, slow and controlled is key. Perform 8-10 repetitions.

#3  Clam

Lay on your side with both knees bent. Keeping your abs and PF braced as before, and your feet together resting on the floor, one on top of the other. Exhale and open the hip by lifting the top knee upwards. Inhale at the top of the movement and then exhale and you lower the knees back together. Make sure that you keep both feet touching, and try not to roll back onto your bottom. You can keep your hand on the floor to stabilise yourself throughout the move. Repeat 10-12 times on each leg.

#4  Cat Stretch

Kneeling on all fours, brace the deep abdominals and PF and exhale as you arch your spine towards the ceiling. Imagine an elastic band from your forehead to your pubic bone, trying to pull your head and hips under and towards each other. As you do this contract the tummy muscles a little, pulling your navel upwards towards your spine. As you exhale, reverse the arch, taking the spine down and the head and hips upwards. Move with each exhalation and repeat 8-10 times.

#5  Boat Pose

Sit with your knees bent in front of you, and lean your torso back to a 45° angle, brace your core muscles and keep your back secure, long and protected. Exhale and lift both feet up off of the floor, keeping the knees bent. Hold your balance on the sit bones. You can advance this move by straightening the legs out or by taking your arms up above your head or out the sides, or even alternating between the two. Hold this pose for 20-30 seconds.

Now it is time to take it up a level, and for this you will need a kettle-bell. 

#6  Double Arm Swing

Stand with your feet a little wider than shoulder width, holding the kettle-bell with both hands in front of you. As you exhale swing the kettle-bell up in front, bringing it just a little higher than your eye level. Brace the abdominals and glutes, and allow the bell to swing down, under and between your legs, keeping your core braced, swing the bell back up. As you do this, clench the butt and push deep into your heels, thrusting the pelvis slightly to push the bell upwards. Repeat two sets of this exercise and complete as many reps as you can in 30 seconds.

#7  Romanian Deadlift

Bring your feet in to hip width apart, keeping the kettle-bell held in both hands in front of you. Exhale, and keeping the legs straight lower your torso forwards and take the kettle-bell towards the floor. Brace your abs as you do this to protect your spine. Keep the abs braced as you exhale and draw your torso back up tall. Repeat two sets of this move 12-14 times SLOWLY! This move is going to strengthen your lower back, whilst stretching your hamstrings.

#8  Wide Plie Squat

The pièce de résistance in any PF or Glute strengthening workout is the Plie squat. Stand with your feet wide and your toes pointing outwards, brace your core muscles and keep your upper body tall (imagine a rope holding you up straight). Activate your pelvic floor and as you exhale bend the knees and drop into a low squat, whilst tightening your glute muscles. Inhale as your pause at the lowest point, and exhale as your push into your heels and raise to standing. Repeat this exercise 14-16 times for two sets.

#9  Downward Facing Dog

Finish your workout with a really good stretch of your back and legs. For this, I prefer to use the Downward Dog position. Stand tall with your abdominals braced and PF activated. As you exhale roll your spine & torso forwards and take your hands to the floor. Walk your hands out until your hips and bum point to the ceiling. Try and draw both heels into the ground. If you are a little tight in your hamstrings or calf muscles, try bending one knee and pulling the opposite heel down to the ground and then alternate, keep walking the heels into the floor. Hold this stretch for 20-30 seconds.

And there you have it, the SexFit Pelvic Floor, Glute and Abdominal workout to help you increase your foo-foo’s strength for improved sexual pleasure. Don’t forget to work on your cardio fitness as well for added stamina in the sack, try an aerobics class or DVD that you can do at home.

Happy Love Making! 😁💑


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How to get rid of Bloating in 5 Easy Steps!

lifestyleBloating seriously SUCKS!!!!

And for many it can be a daily nuisance and in some instances really quite painful & uncomfortable. I can sympathise, I use to and still do occasionally look about 3 months pregnant if I so much as look at the wrong foods.

Obviously in summer, the worries about bloating are exacerbated, as clothes are smaller, tighter and obviously if travelling and eating new foods, the next day on the beach can be a whole new level of discomfort.

Panic over though, as with a few simple tips you can relieve the bloat and feel better in a short space of time.

But, it is important to understand WHY you are bloating in the first place, and as many of our bloating issues start with dehydration, constipation and/or trapped gas within the digestive tract, it can take a few days to see the results, so hang in there!


Hydration is key to reducing and eliminating the bloating and puffiness of the stomach, but remaining hydrated isn’t just about drinking plenty of water, it also comes down to eating the right foods to help maintain the right level of electrolytes in the body. These little electrolytes are minerals and they are responsible for the balance of fluid and hydration levels within the body. nhc_hydration_main-new

When you feel bloated, you may not really feel like putting more in, but you MUST drink water. Although you already probably feel heavy, drinking water WILL make you feel better, so you should aim to drink about 8 glasses a day.

You will also need to eat plenty of fruit & veg, not only are they low in calories, but they are  packed with anti-oxidants and bloat-bashing fibre. Fruit & Veg is also really good at keeping you hydrated! In fact a study once found that the natural balance of minerals, vitamins, amino-acids and natural sugars can be almost twice as hydrating as water. So if you are eating plenty of the good stuff, you can afford to reduce your water intake slightly. Aim for colourful fruits and veggies, especially those that are high in water content like celery, radishes, tomatoes, peppers, leafy greens and cucumber.

I’ve already mentioned electrolyte minerals, and one of those is Potassium, along with sodium, calcium and magnesium. So add some potassium rich foods to your diet. These screen-shot-2015-01-14-at-10-13-08-am-300x195electrolytes are really significant in your hydration, as they keep you balanced, and not in a stand on one-leg kind of way! Sodium is notorious for causing water retention, and is often found in high levels in processed and fast foods, so avoid these at all costs! Potassium however, can help to balance the sodium and reduce fluid retention. Try & include banana, avocado and watermelon in your diet to keep your Potassium levels up.


It feels awful when things aren’t moving through you as often or quickly as they should, and bloating is a natural side-effect of this. In order to avoid bloating you need to keep your body regular and make sure that it is eliminating all the waste properly. Scarily in the UK £67million is spent annually on laxatives…. That’s insane!!! Even more insane is in the US it is recorded to be around $725MILLION (WHOA!).


Try drinking water with a slice of lemon in it, or squeeze some lemon juice into the water. A glass of room temperature water with the juice of half a lemon, although bitter to taste will help to get things moving and stimulate the bowels.

You can also try & increase your “friendly-bacteria” by using pro-biotics. The gut has a natural balance of good & bad bacteria and if these are “out of balance” then the results are uncomfortable. In a perfect scenario the good bacteria is meant to out number the bad, but in todays society & with our current lifestyle choices, this is often not the case. When the bad bacterias take over the good, this is when bloating and constipation occur. Try eating fermented foods like sauerkraut, kimchi and kefir and introduce a probiotic supplement or yoghurt.

If you bloat up really quickly after finishing a meal, say 30 minutes or so after finishing eating, then you may be lacking digestive enzymes. It is these enzymes that break down the food in out gut and help it pass through the digestive system. Again, with the lifestyle choices that we make these enzymes can be reduced. To help stimulate the body to produce enzymes, try drinking a small glass of water with some lemon juice in it or something bitter before your meal.



Now I am not telling you to trump yourself thin, but when gas starts to build up in the digestive system, thats when bloating can start to get really uncomfortable and visible.  You need to try & reduce the gas that is building up, not only to reduce the bloat, but also avoid those awkward situations when you may resemble a trumpet! (how embarrassing!)

Start by avoiding things like carbonated drinks, chewing gum and eating too quickly, oh and talking whilst you eat! All of these actions can lead to you basically swallowing air into the digestive system. If you don’t want a load of hot air in you, don’t ingest it!

Herbal teas are also a good remedy to help relieve bloating, I can personally vouch for ginger & peppermint teas, although chamomile is also regarded as helpful.

Try taking up yoga, although this sounds like a bizarre way to prevent or reduce bloating, IMG_7077some of the twisting and turning motions often used in yoga practise can help to expel unwanted air from the digestive tract. In fact, any exercise can help to release trapped gas.
Haven’t you ever wondered why you hear so many accidental trumps in yoga & pilates, or suddenly feel the need to go to the loo after, or even during a class? Movement which strengthens the abdominal wall, like pilates will also help to pull your tummy into a flatter position.

Bottoms up! 🙂

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Pilates Exercises to help Ease Back Pain

EXERCISE logo copy 2Back Pain is something that millions of people suffer with on a daily basis, and only until you have experienced it can you truly appreciate it. It can be totally debilitating, frustrating, demoralising and quite frankly life controlling. Do I sound like I speak from experience?? That’s because I do! I won’t bore you with details, but back pain has been something I have had to deal with since the age of about 26.

Now, I am going to admit some home-truths here, when I first started going to the gym, and even working in the industry, I was the kinda-gal that you would find in the hardcore classes. Spin, Boxercise, Pump and so on. I wanted to sweat, feel sick and ache like hell the next day. I knew I had worked out! But when back pain started to slow me down, some of these classes really stopped me in my tracks and left me feeling as though I couldn’t do it anymore.

Part of my fitness diploma was to learn to teach Pilates, I left it late in the course, as I wasn’t really that interested in what I thought was the “pansier” side of fitness. Anyway, I rolled up to a plush gym in Birmingham on a sunny Saturday morning to start learning about Pilates. Step one, a Master class! Within an hour of starting I felt my back loosen, my stomach tighten, my mind relax. Plus I felt about 2-inches taller! For the rest of that weekend, I was buzzing! This was incredible! I felt pain-free! I felt amazing!

A few months later, I qualified as a fundamental level instructor, and after two years I was a qualified instructor. Now, my real adventure could begin!

Back pain relief through Pilates! Classes filled up and people were happy to be getting the same feelings and experience as I did….. But what were we doing that was easing the pain?

I’m about to share with you a short 20 minute video, teaching you a series of exercises that will help you to stretch your torso, abdominals and your back, whilst strengthening your core to help protect your back from further injury. These exercises help to realign your core and above all reduce pain. BUT, as with any exercise, you should seek medical advice from your GP prior to starting a new workout and if any exercises cause further pain STOP IMMEDIATELY! Exercise should not be painful!

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